How to Break a Pattern

Breaking a longstanding pattern (like people-pleasing, self-judgment, over-thinking, or perfectionism) is not as simple as changing a habit. The roots of these behaviors are deep and impact every area of life… including how we approach the work of breaking out of those very patterns!

In their attempt to get out of their current unhelpful pattern, many people end up inadvertently strengthening the very patterns they are trying to break. How? They bring the pattern to the pattern.

They get angry at themselves when they are angry.

They criticize themselves for being self-critical.

They try to be perfect at breaking their perfectionistic cycles.

And most of them don’t even realize they’re doing it. That is the hardest part about these types of patterns.

In this video I show you what you need to know to break free.

Key Points:

• By the time you are aware of your current thoughts they are in the past and cannot be changed. Don’t waste energy thinking about how you shouldn’t have had that thought. Instead, direct your energy to where you have control - your next thought. The place you have the most power in breaking patterns is in your next conscious thought.

• These patterns are wired into your brain and nervous system and have a self-protective quality. Expect them to show up for a while and do not try to stop the initial patterned reaction. Start with your reaction to the pattern.

• When it comes to rewiring the brain, it isn’t about perfectionism. It’s about volume.