Relationship Coaching
Learn the skills you need to create healthy, safe, connected relationships with the people who matter most.
They say that most couples go to therapy 4-7 years too late. Don’t let that be your story.
Work with me NOW to break free from unhealthy patterns and build a solid foundation for a lifetime of love and connection, no matter how long you’ve been together.
If you didn’t grow up with emotionally healthy caregivers, it can be incredibly difficult to navigate adult relationships. We may want to be loving, healthy partners, parents, and friends but we don’t actually know how to do that, despite our best efforts.
We’ve never had the safety, modeling, support, and practice required to build in healthy relational skills. Many of us, even if we had loving, well-meaning care-givers, didn’t get our early attachment needs met and instead developed coping strategies early on that are deeply engrained and are impacting the quality of our relationships.
Thankfully, we can learn these skills as adults and create intimate, secure, healthy, connected adult relationships. And that is exactly what I help couples do through a integrative approach to relationship coaching.
About My Relationship Coaching
Couples Therapy vs Relationship Coaching
While there is a bit over overlap between relationship coaching and couples therapy, especially because many therapists do coaching as well, these are some important distinctions to help you decide which is right for you:
The difference between coaching and therapy is that therapists are qualified and have training to assess, diagnose, and treat mental health disorders, serious disorders of function in cognition, emotion, behavior, or relationship. I cannot diagnose or treat mental health conditions. If one or both partners is in need of assessment or treatment of a suspected or known mental health condition as part of the process, you will want to go to a therapist for that.
I do not work with clients who have severe mental health challenges, are currently in crisis, or struggle in ways that prevent them from being able to engage in deeper work in safe and regulated ways. We all can get triggered when we start working on relationships, but a good rule of thumb is this: Can you and your partner handle an emotionally challenging situation and bring yourself back to a regulated state with relative ease? (Meaning, if you take 20 minutes to cool off, maybe take a walk around the block, etc. are you then able to think clearly again?) If so, then you are probably a good candidate for relationship coaching.
As a coach, my work is future focused and goal oriented. Through a collaborative process, I work with clients to determine their goals and then bring my expertise to that process. Our initial consultations helps us determine if my areas of expertise and the client’s needs line up.
My work as a coach focuses on common relationships struggles including things like: getting stuck in negative communication patterns, struggling to work through conflict in healthy ways, losing the “spark,” a recognition that you’re drifting apart and losing connection, etc. I work with clients who love and care for each other, but need some practical guidance for how to really show up in healthy ways.
If you are not sure which is right for you, you can BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION.
Relationship Coaching Process
My coaching pulls from many different lineages . Some common focuses include:
Finding freedom from negative communication cycles
Learning to identify and communicate wants, needs, and boundaries
Moving toward secure attachment patterns
Learning skills, such as how to give a quality apology
Learning how to navigate conflict in safe and generative ways that leads to greater connection
Building in daily/weekly habits and patterns to invest in the bond + build and maintain connection
Learning self-regulation and co-regulation skills to navigate emotionally challenging moments
Working through common challenges around sex and intimacy
Building emotional capacity so partners can be consistently accessible, engaged, and emotionally responsive.